Quote: It's not his fault that he's married to a woman who prefers a quickie to a hug, household help or words of affection.
Ok, so since the talk a couple of days ago, H is now doing EVERYTHING (except the one thing, of course) to be nice to me. He has taken over ALL of the cooking and cleaning, brought me a thoughful gift after work yesterday, has been calling me to chat a couple of times per day while at work.. you name it, he's trying... How long until, when things do not go back to pretending like there's nothing wrong, does he start to resent me for not being appeased by his efforts? I feel like a total B@#$%. He's doing everything he can think of, and it's just not gonna do it. I am telling him thank you and how much I appreciate it, but...
The lots of Jews comment was from me from another thread, since I'm not surrounded by other Jews, I tend to notice when I see more than one of them at a time.
And now that you mention the recreational vs procreational sex... I really hadn't thought of it that way, but looking back on it... ML became more regular (and better) when we were trying for baby, and non-existant since we found out I was pregnant. So, yeah, I'd say the procreational sex was WAY easier, it hadn't occured to me that could be a factor.. hmmmm Still, seems odd to me since H is agnostic and wasn't raised in any religion... who knows? And continuing to think about it... VERY early in our relationship, long before we were ready to have children, but after we had established that we both wanted them, (back when ML was almost daily) he did used to refer to ML as practicing to have children... something to think about, but how could you get around this after the last child is born?
Quote: I go back and forth on this one. There are times when I don't want to have generalizations applied to me; I want to be "special" and different. But when I'm feeling lonely and stressed-out, I seek comfort in "being like other people."
Especially in a situation like this where SO frequently tries to make you feel like a freak for wanting something PERFECTLY NORMAL!
