You aren't alone, and your situation is NOT unique (this is a good thing).
Read the first chapter of Michele's book here online.
The problem with your husband can be fixed. You will find plenty of help and support here.
Oh, and be prepared to find out a few things about yourself as you proceed.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.