After reading the latest post I am with Nopkins. You cannot win this one unless she gets honest. Whatever kept her up all night that she decided to "confess" isn't the full story. It unburdened her just enough....
Like Nop I don't want to seem harsh but PROTECT YOURSELF and the KIDS. I went through the big D with a prince of a guy. I put him through med school he put me through the hell of verbal abuse, perscription drug abuse, job changes etc... In the end I wasn't sorry for the five years I spent trying to fix things and I wasn't sorry for ending things either. I am sorry for my children but they are doing well and love their stepDad very much. My choice is always to try and save the marriage and I hope yours is salvagable. Many are. Set some specific goals, be direct with her and try like hell. Just make sure you understand the legalities involved AND do some things to nurture yourself and son in the meantime.
