The first thing through my mind as I read your first post was 'affair'.
I see that others have already broached that with you.
I very much doubt that your wife's affairs are internet/emotional only. It is very likely that they have become physical.
First thing, I strongly recommend that you retain legal counsel so that you understand fully, your options.
The second thing you must do, is get active in your recovery. That means no more procrastination. You must get ALL the facts and come up with a plan.
You need to snoop and get details of your wife's encounters - all of them, known and unknown. Don't be surprised if there are many.
You may want to consider a paternity test regarding your son. That is up to you, but don't be a martyr and suck up paying for something you possibly didn't do for the next 13 years.
Counseling for your wife has to be mandatory for you to remain in the relationship.
DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME. That is abandonment. Bad idea if things turn ugly.
I know you love your wife. That is why you are here. I must tell you that you are in for a rough ride. Sex is the least of your problems.
Find out what is going on. Get your wife some help. Guard your finances and protect your interests in the relationship.
There is a very good chance that your move for your wife's career, was actually to facilitate her physical affair.
You must get over being devastated , back up, and disconnect yourself from the situation emotionally. You have too much to do to be distraught right now. You can fall apart later.
I am sorry I have been rough on you. It is intended to help. If you prefer that I make no further comments on your situation, I will completely understand.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
