Thanks anne, midip, maya, SD, Betsey, welcome KID, and thanks H2H, GBO, Wendy, Christian, and of course Ellie…
Hi hi hi guys, just a quick post while the wine is staying the pinched nerves...
Thank you so much for all the input. The reason I posted under the title Need a Kick in the *ss was that in knew I was being the old me. That said...
SD, if you hadn't laughed, I would have been disappointed. I mean, really disappointed. I laugh at myself on a daily basis, and when I stop, I’ll realize I’m done fer. So thanks for laughing.
Ellie, Yeah. I know. Really.
Welcome, Kid, and thanks for stopping in. Nice to have new blood on the thread… I’ll get over to yours one of these days soon.
OK, let me try to be brief, as wine doesn’t work quite as well as painkillers, and I’ll probably fall asleep at some point here.
Betsey, I couldn’t tell if you were misreading things or referencing old perceptions by S. Wanting to go out to dinner and a movie hardly counts as “party girl” in my book, especially since we’d already been back a week. I wanted to get out, as we both had been eating dinner in all week, and I had been working at home all day and dying to get out of the house. Party girl is really such a misnomer. I enjoy eating out once in a while, and going to the movies. Parties terrify me, and the thought of going to a club makes me want to stick my head in the sand. So, not sure what your definition of a party girl is.
Yes, I overreact and yes, I realize I could have been more accommodating. When the cherry is askew , I tend to lose my tool box. BUT, in my defense, I did not post one of the things I proposed to him, which was, we could eat at home and then go to the movies in our neighborhood. But he wanted to go to a particular movie in “town,” and so that’s what we did. Did I mention we’d been back a week already?
Wanting to go out once in a while, I think, isn’t such a horrible thing. And I don’t even ask him once a week – it’s more like once every two or three weeks, to his asking hardly ever.
H2H, as usual, you’re spot on. Yes, I go through these equations, which are of course fallacious, and get myself into trouble. OK, so he likes to stay in the nest with JinB. OK. Fine. So do I. But I also like to go out every once in a while, and sometimes, as in this one, I thought that it would help to have a shared experience, like going to the movies, to buffer the awkwardness of NYE. I thought, if we stay home, we’ll get bogged down in awkwardness and talk about the R. If we go out, we can talk about the movie. And that’s exactly what happened. In fact, it was a sort of tactic for me, to bring us closer together after such an awkward NY.
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This weekend we had difficult talks, followed by lots of making up and closeness .
Will tell all later, when I can be normal and not incapacitated by a keyboard.
Again, thanks for all the support – I really do value all opinions, even the hard ones to swallow.
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