Quote: I lightly said, during the course of this strained and impossible conv., that I thought we'd go out and do something since we hadn't done anything in a while, to which he replied, "What do you mean we haven't done anything? We just spend a week in Georgia."
Sigh. Does ANYbody see what I mean here?
No, but I see what he means! He just spent a week travelling with you and now you're mad he isn't asking you out on the town tonite? When you know he's kind of a homebody anyway who needs his time alone?
You are crazymaking here - what's it all about?
As for NYE - I AM going to whack you, J. Speak up when something comes up - DON'T do that swallow-it-and-martyr-yourself=and -then-get-pissed-he-didn't-read-your-mind-thing! (I know it well - runs in my family! )
Imagine what would have happened on NYE if, when S turned on the TV, you had said "oh, honey, let's just watch the fireworks instead?" Either he would have said "okay" - and you would have had what you wanted - or he would have said "oh, please, I used to LOVE watching the ball drop when I was a kid" - and you would have felt better about it. Instead, you let your ASSumptions that watching the TV meant you wouldn't get the romantic moment you had built yourself up for ruin the romantic moment that could have been.
As for tonight - speak up! If he calls and says "no plans have materialized so I'm going home" either say "good, I'm going out" or say "I thought we talked this morning about doing something together tonite" or say "does that mean you want to be visited by a naked nymph around, say, 10 o'clock?"
I know it's hard - when you have been the rejected one, speaking up for what you want is hard - it feels risky. But what is REALLY risky is continuing to handle things the way you have been.
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