Quote: Before I left, I sent him an e-mail at work saying I was going with MF, and to join us if he could. So at 11:15 I got a message saying "Hey, I'm home, I guess you aren't back from the movies yet, maybe I'll see you when you get home. ... I'm hoping."
So it was 1:45 when I got home, and I just came to my house (for newbies to my thread, S. lives three townhouses down). S. hasn't had the key to my place these last 3 days, because we had houseguests who needed an extra set of keys. So I am home, and haven't called S., which I imagine will be a source of consternation tomorrow. It's just so late, and I could go there, but I didn't, and now I'm home, etc etc.
Now duck, because I'm gonna whack you here - what were you thinking????? He made it really clear he was hoping to hear from you, you already knew he was jealous - so WHY did you purposefully pick the path that would drive him further away? Can you say "self-sabotage"?
I think the best approach is to just own up to it. Something like : " SO, I'm so sorry about last night. You made it clear you wanted to see me last night when I came home, and I didn't come through. I think it's a measure of my own insecurities (he doesn't really want to see me, he won't be happy if I come over this late, I might get rejected) that led me to reject you instead. I'm so sorry for being such a bonehead. Can I make it up to you tonight? "
