It seems to me that you're back to "how to tell S" about this. I'm guessing from your track record of intense R talks that he's heard before how you feel about this. Maybe he hasn't heard, or probably more accurately, felt how you feel.
Quote: S. feels I don’t understand his connection to this particular theater and film noir in general, and by going to 8 movies in 5 days without him and not making more of an effort to include him, I was showing a real lack of sensitivity.
How does this sitch compare to his view of the film festival? He thought that was something you should recognize as important to him, important enough to him that he felt you should naturally include him. Can you draw a parallel between what the inclusion in social circles would mean to you and his feeling about wanting to particiapte in seeing the films? (I'm pretending to be cultured, so I didn't say "flicks." )
K
My sitch More importantly, Light A Million Candles
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