But the difference is, I WANT him to be a part of my friendships and family. I include him whenever he'll come. I don't have this hang-up he does about protecting everybody from me but not protecting me from anybody. I realize with half my brain (the DB side) that my question above is faulty logic... in relationships one can't hold up tit for tat as a reason for anything. But the other half of my brain (the going-off-half-cocked one) looks for these inconsistencies and jumps on them (as ways of protecting myself? I'm not sure).
