BELMONT!! So nice to hear from you, old friend. It's like college - you always have such warm feelings for the freshmen you started out with, wide-eyed and naive... We've come a long way, baby. So sorry to hear about your recent troubles.

Maya, thanks for your post. I have no idea why I didn't think it was relevant. It's not like I even thought about it in the context of our R, and therefore it never crossed my mind to post it here. Strange, isn't it, what we think is important vs. not? Thanks, too, for the nudge to see S's vulnerabilities. You're absolutely right, and I haven't noticed it in a long while. I'm so used to being the pursuer that it doesn't occur to me that he might need my assurances, too.

Betsey, I was picturing your face as I was nailing my fee negotiation. I could see your particular typing style as I saw the words "He who speaks first, buys" float across the screen of my brain.

Sage, you continue to be an inspiration to us as we struggle through the realization that DBing will NEVER END!! As fabulous as your R can ever be, it STILL can use more DBing! Thanks for all the reminders, and the energy it takes you to type all those notes about books, etc. Half the time we don't even need to read them, for all the info you give on your thread! So Wendy, get busy. You've got 957 reading hours ahead of you.

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Tonight S. has plans with a MF, and I am going back to the movies with my MF. We'll see if S. has another mini-meltdown over it. We didn't see each other last night, and we won't see each other tonight, which is the longest we've gone in months. Last night, as we got off the phone, and after S. told me he had plans with MF, he said "Maybe I'll talk to you tomorrow." The ire level shot to "TILT." Instead of jumping down his throat and spitting "MAYBE?!?!" I said cheerfully, "I certainly hope so," and then "Good-night."

I'm a little nervous about his reaction to my going to the movies with MF again, but what can I do? He has plans, and Maltese Falcon plays tonight only. Can't miss that.

jjj

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