Onward and Upward - Kicking and Screaming

[Wendylon]

Great stuff, Jennifer.

It's interesting for me to see how far along a R can be (compared to mine at the moment) and yet how much DBing there is to do. I guess it never ends. As I've probably said before, I love the details of your R. You're great at quoting the pertinent bits of your convos.


This bit reminds me of me and H:

He said something about my comment that I “couldn’t fight for maybe” and he completely understood that, but that I, too, showed doubt all the time, and how was he to know my own commitment when I was talking about “walking away” (his words)?

Of course, H only says this sort of thing when the pendulum is swinging back towards me. When he says it, I feel like saying that I'm only thinking of leaving because HE isn't committed and that he can't use it as a reason not to commit. I don't think it's fair to use a reaction of mine to behavior of his to then justify his behavior.

I'm not advocating you think the way I do about this. It's obvious that my thinking has not got me anywhere good! At least, I've stopped pointing out to H that I think he is appealing to circular reasoning.

I look forward to following your sitch. I'm very envious of your great sex life. That feels like another world.

Wendy