Ah Merrick, cast all the doubt you want on S., his ability to commit, or Jennifer's decisions. But please leave me out of it . . .
Quote: In many respects, I think you're in H2H land, just going with the flow one day at a time.
I'm doing the best that I can and it is apparent that my lifestyle does not suit you. Alas, I'm not here to live according to anyone else's 'rules' but my own.
Yes, for me life is made up of one moment at a time. I do focus on the here and now, and try to take life one day at a time. This works for me. I take issue with your implication that "just going with the flow" is not good enough. But I accept that it just may well be the case for you.
I may not have the relationship I would like or even one that comes near your definition of a marriage. But I do have a rather warm & tender R with a man that I love. We are truly friends and for that I am grateful. We are kind & caring to one one another. On the other hand, you have a Marriage and Commitment, but I don't see the care & tenderness. And that is just not enough for me.
How about we just agree to disagree? If it is not obvious by now, I'm happy to state clearly that our end goals differ significantly.
I do agree that commitment does indeed take work. However, I don't see it so much as an off/on switch that once turned on you can easily suspend all doubt and second thoughts. I believe we all have moments of doubt and when cornered for a response are likely to respond something that doesn't come out quite right. I see S. & Jennifer having a loving R, in which they are at the very least talking about the issues and barriers they both have in getting to the "C word".
I also think we come here for support - which does include the 'tough' questions, but not necessarily doubt for doubt's sake alone. Sorry Jennifer, now back to the regularly scheduled program.
