I think Ellie's right that it's often the little things....the airport pickups, the packing up the car (that I know you do) that matter. At least with my guy, I know that now.
Remember that holidays are loaded. Do avoid that R talk thing. Fallback is yoga and kitty cat. You have a good plan, so stick to it!
And, wow, I am so envious of your New England Thanksgiving. Have a great one!
