Quote: Which brings me to Ellie, who I must say irritated me at first with your list of phone calls from your H while he was away. No hard feelings now, but at the time I thought a “nanny-nanny-boo-boo” might have been appropriate after that post. Actually, I did have a call from S. every day, we just didn’t actually speak on those calls, and yes, I would have preferred follow-up calls, but I was as guilty of not calling as he. BTW, we’re both introverts (I’m just the needy introvert). And now the little irritation has turned into a pearl.
Didn't mean to irritate you! Just wanted to point out that it's okay, it's NORMAL, to want your guy to miss you and be anxious to see you when he's gone. Now, if you dropped the ball on calling him back, and didn't greet him with an enthusiastic "I'd love to pick you up at the airport - can't wait to see you!" - I can see him thinking that YOU didn't miss him while he was gone and YOU weren't anxious to see him when he returned.
(BTW - that airport pickup thing - matters to them. It would be so much simpler if my H just took a cab - $25 and 20 minutes, versus me picking him up - but it really matters to him that I'm there. Makes him feel loved and appreciated and welcomed home. I get it now.)
Just wanted to point out that it's okay, it's NORMAL, to want your guy to miss you and be anxious to see you when he's gone. Now, if you dropped the ball on calling him back, and didn't greet him with an enthusiastic "I'd love to pick you up at the airport - can't wait to see you!" - I can see him thinking that YOU didn't miss him while he was gone and YOU weren't anxious to see him when he returned.
