You've got to remember my H is the LD in my R...he can go on indefinitely without it. I merely brought up the fact that 1-2 times per week would be my number if I had to choose....because I knew that wouldn't intimidate him....and it's what I really could deal with. Right now it's 1x per week....but I've seen definite improvements in our R with that.
One thing I have noticed...and I just posted this on another thread as well for HoneyPot was that...as soon as I gave up trying to get him to "want/desire" me I had more success. See...It finally dawned on me I was trying to alter his feelings...I can't do that, that's not within my power. Want & desire are both feelings, people are bound to interperete those feelings differently within themselves.
Once I mentally gave up on trying to alter his feelings I noticed changes in him that were more in the direction that I wanted. Maybe I changed my behavior as a result of trying to get him to "want" me, perhaps it was even a subliminal change...but he's responding to it.
