I'm going to continue to post on here as the weeks go by...just to give updates for those of you who don't believe in scheduled sex
Hubby came through again last night for me...it was very quick and really not very satisfying for me during the act itself (BTW he'd been hunting all weekend and was exhausted too.) He's made more improvements however, which is what I'm going to choose to recognize.
Yes, ladies & gentlemen...my H actually tried something new for once! We didn't have the traditional him/me on top for once...which btw is the reason it didn't last very long, I think. For the first time he actually agreed to doggie style, which he liked VERY well indeed!
As I mentioned it was over very, very quickly....and he felt bad about that (although he did attempt to take care of me a bit beforehand), which I could tell. But instead of letting the resentment take over that it wasn't earth-shattering sex, I chose to acknowledge the fact that he tried something new and let him know how much I really appreciate him keeping to our schedule, that it means the world to me that he is willing to do that.
I also did my best to assure him that for now, I'm not so concerned with the length of time we ML, we can address that later (if that issue doesn't work itself out.) Right now I'm just happy that he's making the effort to get close to me. And so far, I haven't had to remind him once about our "fun night".
Some of you may think this is great progress, others may think it's no progress at all since it's not the type of sex I really want. For me however, it's great! Each week, he relaxes more sexually speaking....just this morning he actually joked about coming home from hunting and "gettin some." He'd NEVER do that before...sexual comments wouldn't even think about crossing his lips.
Also earlier in the evening we sat down to eat dinner in front of the tube (him in his recliner, me on the sofa)...when we were finished he got up from where he was sitting to sit by me and snuggle...this is another thing he just doesn't normally think of doing...but he did it on his own, no prompting from me. Yes, I was sitting there thinking, "it'd sure be nice if you'd get your butt up and come sit by me."...but this time he actually did it...I didn't say a thing.
I really am beginning to believe that our scheduled nights are having chain reactions...as far as how he interacts with me now. He's becoming more physical towards me during everyday activities, now he's starting to just sit and snuggle a bit with me.
Now hopefully I can keep my mouth shut and not push too hard. He needs some time to be able to grow comfortable with what he's learning and to be able to see that it's a safe place to go where I'm concerned. Although I did bring up after we ML last night that eventually I would like to increase the frequency. He's the type of person who doesn't like surprises ( he says he doesn't mind change, but in reality he balks at it) so every now and then as he improves I'll bring up increasing the frequency...so he won't be so surprised when it happens...and who knows, maybe the way things are heading...he'll beat me to it (I hope.)
I guess that's it for now.
Any input or observations are as always....welcome!
GEL
