Just thought I'd post a bit of an update. As I've mentioned earlier...my LDH finally agreed to having a night (or two) a week on our calendars for sex. Doesn't sound terribly romantic...but it's definitely a place to start.
And you know what...it wasn't as "unromantic" as I thought it would be. I figured I was going to have to coerce my LDH into having sex as I always have...but I didn't. We had been watching a movie in our bedroom (Shrek 2...terribly romantic, I know...but funny!) and had been doing some very light petting while watching. I was surprised to find that once the movie was over my H enthusiastically removed his PJ's and just sat there with a childish grin on his face. He was actually looking forward to this. Whew!
It didn't last long...how could it when we've both been holding it in for so long...but it was very nice. There was more passion in that time than we've had in a year of our marriage.
I truly believe that by making appointments for sex...it takes the pressure off of my H to have to be spontaneous. We can work on that later (one thing at a time)....right now I would just like to work on the frequency and the quality.
The main reason I post this though, is for those people who really have a negative outlook towards "scheduling" sex. It's a place to start..and if you can really give it a chance and get that negative feeling of its not spontaneous, or it's not romantic or passionate while you're ML to your partner...then it can really turn out to be quality sex too! Things heated up for us pretty nicely as things progressed
