kevin, sorry you are back here. I wish things would have worked out, but unfortunately going back so quickly sometimes backfires. It takes a great deal of time, I think, before reconcilation occurs to really get a grip on where the R is going and make sure that both want back for all the right reasons and both your heads are on straight. I know people who have gone from threatening and fighting one day to getting back together the next...I think it is only time before something happens. Don't know what to tell you expect hang in there. How old are your children? I was thinking perhaps if they are old enough, they can choose...I know in many cases, a teenager can tell a judge where they choose to live. Just a thought.