Quote: Although he did tell me one thing that very much upset me...that he had recently been afraid he didn't love me anymore. But he realized that was silly, since he also knew he didn't want me out of his life. And that he realized it was just because of all of the stress he's been under--that it just "masked" his other feelings for me. This kind of struck me, because it's the closest he's ever come to the ILBNILY line. I guess this probably explains the weird reactions I got not too long ago when I told him ILY.
Have you read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? (I feel like I ask everyone that about a thousand times so apologies if I have already asked you).
ANYWAY...there's a section in there about how if men don't know that their desire for "cave time" is "normal" that they start to feel like they must not really love their partners.
Quote: He also told me he still feels smothered at times, that he's afraid of how much I love him and that he won't be able to live up to my expectations. And he told me that he feels like he doesn't know how to make me happy. Hm. I'm thinking he may be asking me for some help here, since this is a topic that has come up a lot.
Lost of clues here, huh?
I've been having trouble lately balancing my reactions to h to be non-reactive to his stress/cave time/etc. Thanks for posting about your interactions with h...helped me a lot.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
