Hm. I'm kind of sorry I blew my lid yesterday...but, at the same time, it sure got a lot of tension out of me. I am much calmer and more in control today. Guess I needed to get it out of my system.
H called me twice more this evening. Once to see why I was home late. I told him I was already at FF's house--he sounded a little down, since he'd thought I would be home from work first. And then again, when he got out of the gym. He caught me just before I got home. Said he was hungry...so I offered him my left-overs.
When I got home, he was already taking off to see his MF. ( I had rather planned it this way...felt like putting some space between us so we could both de-energize for a day.) He seemed distant, and, well, alien. But no biggie. Asked me to do some things for him, which I did--AOS.
And he just now called me again to ask me something. Said he would call me back later to double-check...
He seems physically distant--very detached--but more sociable on the phone. Hm. Whatever. His issues, not mine!
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I was struck also when I read your list of the changes your H has been working at. I read somewhere recently, I think it may have been in a book and not here on the bb, that there is a BIG difference between making changes slowly, trying to make changes and backsliding, and refusing to change or to even admit that change is needed.
It was funny, but I didn't realize how much he really had done until he started rattling it off. He does have a point--I'm not giving him enough credit.
And, I see your point, too... The fact that he is making changes, no matter how far away he may seem, is good. Sure, he's whining and griping about how he doesn't want to--but, overall, I think he is putting effort in. And, we're all looking long-term, or we wouldn't be here.
Said he was hungry...so I offered him my left-overs. 
His issues, not mine! 
