List of things he (or any married man) doesn't get to do:
1) Flirt with ANYONE
2) Have secret female friends
3) Look up exes for ANY reason
4) Act like you are abusive when nothing like that has
EVER come up before (it's really manipulative to make
himself into a victim in this discussion)

He needs cousneling and a firm reality check BADLY. He is not acting like a married man, and if you did have a child with him, you would be boiling with resentment because of it. Insist on some sort of help fo rhim, Nev. He is being manipulative and immature with you, and I don't think he even know it.

Hugs,
Myrrh

One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.