Sage...thanks so much for visiting. What would I do without all of you guys?? (Probably think I was crazy...lol... )

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.it's been 2 years for me and I still get stuck, stuck, stuck. I don't know that it will ever go away, frankly, but I do find it's lighter now, easier to get through



At least I'm not the only one. I know he's not trying to be inconsiderate of my feelings, but I often get the impression from that if I have forgiven him, then I should just be over and done with it. Unfortunately, it doesn't quite work that way.

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Are you generally prone to depression? Is there something else going on at the same time as all of this?



Nope--this is it. Some of the usual life stuff...we're still trying to get ourselves in better shape financially...but nothing else.

And yes, I am prone to depression. (My brother suffers, and I am suspicious that my mother does as well.) I was depressed a lot through my childhood and early college years. Never was on AD's--at least, not for depression. I took some when I had difficulty sleeping, and hated them. Was sure glad to get rid of 'em. Anyway, learned to deal with it as I got older. Generally, as long as I eat well (ie, strictly) and stick with exercising.

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Note to "self" -- if you can, decrease criticism and increase validation and appreciation when h starts his "pre bomb" rumblings.



Yeah, I was thinking the same thing.

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This is a tough one...OTOH, you don't want to make him feel badly for sharing his negative feelings with you but on the other, you don't want to shut him out, either...have you thought of a way to tell him "some of the past few weeks brought back some hard memories"?



I've tried telling him that, although his sharing negative feels with me appears to hurt me, it hurts me much less than his just shutting me out. If he says something that gets me obviously upset, then he just says "I knew I should have told you!" And clams right up. I'd like to get the point where I'm much less reactive to this stuff. At least, when we were seperated, we used to have these conversations over the phone. Much easier to hide the tears that way. I think he's reading it from my eyes...

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Sorry your stomach has been bothering you too! Does anything help? I'm having ginger tea right now...want a cup?



Hot tea helps. Herbal, no sugar, and hot. Been drinking it by the gallon lately.

I'm just glad I didn't get a full-blown cold. It always tends to linger with me, anyway, and this is much better than I've had to deal with in the past. Just really annoying when I'm feeling so off kilter anyway.

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