Hiya, Nev! You can't imagine how I agonized over those posts before I sent them, because I didn't want you to be hurt by them. I am so glad you took them as I intended, as a caring concern being shared by a friend. It is totally okay for you to defend him - I have certainly done my share of it. To be fair, I believe you posted about the break from work thing, but I had just forgotten it.

I think you are doing great encouraging him, and I hope your loving encouragement will help him speedily catch up on the time he has lost being frustrated. You are right about not being able to push him - he needs to do this kind of thing on his own.

Part of why I think I am so concerned is because of my history - your h's recent odd behavior raises alarms for me that are already very sensitive. I feel your struggles to trust him, and I see things that my H is doing to reassure me, but since I am not in your sitch, I don't see the things your H is doing.

My hugs to you - I know that tonight's disclosure was probably a bit painful...so you'll be in my thoughts.

Thanks again for understanding the caring behind what I was saying,
Myrrh

One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.