Still no license. So, the clerk at the courthouse calls me back this morning. Apparentally, I sent the money order to the wrong courthouse. Never mind it was the same county! I took the afternoon off of work, got H to drive me around. Well, we get to the courthouse, and the one person who could help me...took the afternoon off. So, no form from the courthouse, no license back.

Well, we've been out of insurance for a week now, which concerns me. Especially with more snow coming. So, we go in to a local insurance agent to see if we can just get H insured. Turns out he can't get insured because my license is suspended. Since we're in the same household. Well, they at least referred us to an independent agent...who...managed to dig us up some (more expensive) insurance. So at least the cars are covered! Sheesh, what a mess. This is driving me crazy. (Oh yuck, just realized that's a really bad pun...)

I was in a pretty grumpy mood, and was complaining. H was being really sweet and cheered me up. I told him he was awesome for driving me around, since I drug him out of bed early. He told me he didn't mind--that it's part of his job. What a sweetie. He also said that it sucked we were having all of these problems related to my license, and what a mess of BS it is. I told him I'd rather have these problems than problems with us. He agreed (enthusiastically) to that one!

He also asked, while we were driving around, if I thought we were "fixed." I said yes, and asked if he felt the same way. He also said yes.

H also brought up the subject of his temper. He was talking about it casually, but did say he missed Tae Kwon Do as that was a big anger release for him. Without it, all he has is the gym. I told him I would try to get our debts consolidated, and that then we could probably afford it.

So...I was right with my approach. I told him last night that I had a problem with his temper. He obviously had put some thought in it to bring it up. We discussed in a normal conversation...like how we would talk about what we're getting for dinner. No need for yelling or pushing on my part...no need to force a heated discussion to insist on solutions. (The way that feels the most natural for me.) I just mentioned it, and he thought about it, and we have some ways to maybe deal with it...

So I was reading through some stuff here. And I ran across a post JinBklyn over in Newcomers. Really struck me, so I printed it out. H asked what I was reading. I was hesitant (keeping in mind that I "remind" him too much), but said I would tell him if he really wanted to know. He said he did. I told him it was something on affairs.

I could tell he was irritated, but he was also joking with me. Kind of rolled his eyes, and said he was sick of hearing about affairs. (Aha...caught my example of "reminding" him...) I said it was just information, and information helps me feel prepared. That it helps me deal with things. He said it upset him. I said that was fine, but to just let me deal with it in the way that helps me. He agreed.

As I read it, I kind of laughed at one part. He asked what was funny. I told him in the article, it talks about how it's a bad idea for someone to play the "rescuer" with people outside of the marriage...which describes him. I always call him Bruce Wayne. He protested that that was just part of his character. I told him he only needed to rescue one person....me. He said he couldn't help it. I just joked and said "Too bad, you're stuck with being married to me!"

So...I got something across to him I've been wanting to say for awhile. He does this all the time, and it drives me nuts. But, now I've said it, non-confrontational, and he can think about it how he wants.

[color:"purple"]Nevanna[/color]