Quote: Also realized H was right last night when he accused me of letting other people's drama upset me. He pointed out (correctly) that we are not them, and I shouldn't be let other people's drama get to me. He's completely right.
Dear, dear darling. H used to tell me this all the time. His words: "Why are you letting someone else's #$@)*$@ affect us?" I know it's hard, but you gotta take care of yourself and your R with H. I still do this, and I find myself getting upset when I read other DBers' sitches, especially when the WAS is lashing out. It is difficult for me b/c I've been here so long and my fellow DBers are part of my life. In the end, though, you need to protect what you've worked so hard to "piece" back together - your M. It shows growth that your H feels safe enough to open up like this to you. You have made so much progress.
Keep up the great work. I lurk on the "Piecing" forum often, and everyone here is such an inspiration to me. TTYL!
Okay - back to "lurker" status.
NSN My current thread LUVR ... Listen, Understand, Validate, and Respond
