hello Nevanna, Not sure if you remember me. i still keep up with your posts and we are still piecing I just don't post very often at all. I have a question for you though. My husband and I had a s itutation happen last night and I thought maybe you could offer advice. I have extreme anxiety even now a year after everything happened and I still take issue with him going out after work with work people. Most times it becomes such a big deal that he just stays home. you would think I would be happy right? Wrong. i don't want it to be with way, I just don't know how to change it. So anyway I want to share something he said to me last night with you and see what you think! "S I think the reason you are like this is because you have alwasy been insecure about us and always thought I was attactive and funny and that anyone would want me and that I oculd leave you at anytime. For years you did not trust me and now I have given you a reason not too. I have tried to fix that but you have low self esteem in how you look and feel about yourself and I can't change that. i am getting tired of trying to." So here is the thing. he is exactlly right. but i want it to be different. I have read DR but i think I need to go pick it up from the Library again, because now that we are "back together" I need to refresh. What do you think? be harsh I might need it.