Howdy Merrick, from one of your faithful fellow Catholic lurkers! I wanted you to know that I said a silent prayer for you at Saturday night's Mass. I was there as the godparents for my niece, who was finally baptized at 8 years old. It was a moving service, though this particular priest was not as reverent as I prefer.
It sounds like you took the high road and let your wife dig her hole a little deeper. Too bad that she continues to make such poor choices.
At any rate, I wanted to extend my congrats and prayers to you on the beginning of your spiritual journey.