I've been reading up on your posting. How do you stay so centered?
Quote: DB Coach Laurie hinted 15 months ago that someone can't be angry forever, but as Berto's W shows, it may indeed be possible and W is pushing the envelope very hard!
Well, my X has been very nice lately and I suspect for a few reasons. Let me explain........
In June, the X came back and told me how much of a mistake she's made, she's worse off now than before, she's made a mistake etc.
I then did what I thought was the RIGHT thing........I set boundaries to how our make up would work. We had to go see a T, everything in writing, etc. I was very demanding and putting up some serious boundaries, all of which failed.
So, she became fearful and then went on a rage and told me to go you know where. Once again, I really goofed on our M.
So, quickly after this, she starts to see some guy. If you can remember your "Walking on Eggshells", her R with him was fast and furious. That was in June, by August she was telling me how she was going to marry this new guy, blah, blah, blah.
Well Merrick, he dumped her on her Birthday last week. Talk about OUCH. Kids told me everything, how mommy was crying all day long. I never asked and I never mentioned anything to the X. I did though compare notes with MY mom cause the kids love to tell her everything.
So, since last week, X has been very nice, giving hugs, making alot of phone calls to "CHeck on the girls", not unusual but very unusual for the amount of phone calls. She gave me all kinds of compliments when dropping off the girls on Saturday, a long hug and even an "I'm sorry"
SSSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, the point to all this? I think that she has exhausted her mean spirit. I'm sure it had something to do with being dumped by her "Saviour" but it also had to do with the fact that I've finally let go of the rope. There is nothing I can do or say and I have my kids' lives to look after and my own.
I think that there is light at the end of every tunnel, whether the light comes from behind or in front, there is light. I'm not saying that we are getting back together, but at least I can see that whatever happens, it is going to be a smoother road. A good dose of her own medicine might have acutally worked. LOL
When you come back to DC, we should meet for a coffee or something.
Berto
I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
