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[Underdog]

Hi buddy,

I sent you an e-mail as well. (Basically just saying WOW.)

A LIGHT NOTE FOR DBERS

I should add that W keeps questioning who keeps tellig me to say the things I do. And on atr least three occassions she questioned what this Underdog (W used real name) Betsey is telling me and how much am I speaking to her!

For the record, I'm going to clarify here for those who are not in the know...

Merrick and I do chat on the phone occasionally... or seldom... or frequently. We've become Catholic comrades here and have found common ground.

He's been diligent about only talking to me (and other DBers) when his W is not around to jump to her own conclusions. And when he was here in Denver last summer, chose to not address the fact that we went to mass together, had breakfast and then he came over to my house to meet my girls... as friends do.

It was easier not to disclose, and we both understood why. It's a no win situation for my New York friend.

At some point, she realized that he was getting another female POV and attempting to understand her more. Perhaps because on a bad day, I might be his W? Not to mention that he has enlisted local support of fellow DBers--namely TKCC1, Heart2Heart and JinBklyn as well as others south of the Big Apple. He's got a good network of support out there.

He talked with me about her perception, and asked for a little input on how to be honest and do damage control. I think he did it eloquently.

My name was brought up and he told her that I was a friend who was Catholic and who was experiencing similar struggles. He fully disclosed that we talk about our faith and how these struggles affect us. And let her know without any hesitation that our friendship is not clandestine or secretive.

So please know that he's been forthright about our communications and the nature of our friendship.

That's all for me right at the moment. Back to your regularly scheduled program, with JJ at the helm.

Betsey