Wow, it sounds like you definitely have quite a battle going on. It's got to be tough to maintain any hopefullness in your situation, but it sounds like you're handling it well.
When are the times lately that the two of you are getting along better? When things seem to be less heated between you? The times when you seem to be connecting better?
Also, it seems that your "talks" don't go too well. (Is that an understatement?! ). What other "mediums" have you tried (like letters, emails, phone calls, etc.) that has produced some better results for you?
In the past, what was your "fighting style" that seemed to work best? What kinds of "truce triggers" did you have to keep things from going to far? What kinds of "where's" and "when's" worked better? A certain time of day, a certain place, etc.
I have to agree with Ellie and Laurie about not placing too much emphasis on the possibility of BPD. Although most waw's do exhibit some of the tendencys of this disorder, there's usually just a lot of other stuff going on inside of them.
You're in a tough situation, and the Holidays can have a tendency to make things even more emotional. Be sure that you're doing enough to really take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, and take breaks when you need to. This is all VERY draining, and can take it's toll on you in a hurry!
Hope that some of these questions help a bit, and maybe give you some different directions to look in.
JJ
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). What other "mediums" have you tried (like letters, emails, phone calls, etc.) that has produced some better results for you?
