Thanks H2H, I could learn a lot from a single girl.
I started to type W a note about this morning, but called her at work instead. There's DBing and there is common decency, and I decided that I'm not going to allow her to think it's okay to blow up at me in front of the kids--and regardless of whether she likes it or not, I'm going to continue to establish my boundaries for what I can accept.
So I told her that I recognize that she was mad at me and felt disrespected, but waking up the kids and saying in front of them that they should be awaken so they can hear how much I abuse her was simply inappropriate and made me extremely upset. I added that while I can't control what she says and that I didn't want to fight in front of the kids, to me this was unacceptable and I'd have to think about how I prevent this from happening again..
Not surprisingly, she replied that she would rather let the kids know up front then do things silently like me (huh?) and there are two sides to every story (hers and hers? ) and then said she had to go.
