My H put his wedding ring back on! My fears of OW are finally starting to subsideI know she is gone but I still worry about what H feels and thinks of when he thinks of her. We have been steadily making progress over the past few weeks. My H told me ILU last night for the first time since all this happened. I almost didn't believe it and I think a part of me doesn't. I wanted to tell my H not to say it unless he really means it but decided that my H would not say something he didn't mean. It would have ruined the moment. I've definitely learned that biting my tongue is a real asset. I still worry but I know that worrying does me no good. It's sad, but after all this time I still think about the summer, the OW, and the sitch on a daily bases. I can't help it. The ideas just pop into my head with very little to trigger it. Yesterday I was shopping in Borders book store and noticed a lady that looked like a much older version of the OW. What's different now is I do not cry anymore when I think about it and it is beginning to bother me less. I really feel that the whole thing, as painful as it was, was a wake up call to both of us. We still have a long way to go but at least it's getting better. I am ever so grateful for finding this website, the books, and the people on this board! My new goals are;
For me; 1)Lose 15 lbs by March 31 2)Resume my education that went on hold when this all happened. 3)Attend the Retrouvaille Retreat in January with my H. ( He didn't exactly say yes but he didn't say no either, and I think he's going to go!) In the past he would put up a big fuss, make a face, and sigh when I even mentioned marriage retreats, counseling, or similar. He actually asked about it a little to my surprise.
