Slowly, you are the best! It is so wonderful how well you are doing. I love coming here to read your thread because of the wonderful inspiration it gives me. You are truly a shinning star of hope on this BB!
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Looking at the revision necessary, a fun approach seems far less painful. My first self directed assignment is on pace - I want to be one of those unhurried women who seem to glide about life with utmost grace. Most days, it seems like I've just taken on toooo many things on my to do list - I forget to have fun, and feel rushed.
This is great! One of the things that I feel now is a quote that I keep in my mind. The journey is just as much fun, if not more so, then arriving at your destination. Enjoy the moment and what it gives you. There is very little in life that requires our immediate attention. The list of things to do is good but should not be all encompasing of our lives. We rule the list, the list does not dictate to us!
Quote: So, Slowly's prime directive - to slow down Trust me, I'm much better now than pre-dbing, but I do recognise some backsliding - back to taking on too much. Today, I deleted more than half the things that were on my to do list - they will just have to wait. Re-set expectations with colleagues and friends. What a wonderfully liberating feeling
Outstanding Slowly! Keep that feeling with you and remember it anytime you feel the list starting to control you! You are in complete control of you!
Quote: Another dimension to this 'un-hurriedness' is to script conversations that are likely to be tricky, especially with NG. My appreciation to Jennifer (where are you, Jennifer? we miss ya ) for illustrating the power of scripting. I've tried it, and it works. A slower pace, being perceived as an unhurried lady, will certainly allow for time to script tough chats through in my head.
Well, I use to do this but it really screwed me up. If it works for you, great! For me, when I tried to do this, the convo I would be having usually would take a different turn then what I had scripted for. Usually I would end up bungling the convo. Now, I just go with the flow, have no expectations for the convo, and take it were it goes. This is just what happens to me, scripting my work for you. Just giving you a little insight on what happen to me.
You sitch sounds so promising and things are going so well for you. You are truly a wonderful person, do not let anyone else tell you or make you feel other wise! Good luck and stay focused!
Love Michael
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Trust me, I'm much better now than pre-dbing, but I do recognise some backsliding - back to taking on too much. Today, I deleted more than half the things that were on my to do list - they will just have to wait. Re-set expectations with colleagues and friends. What a wonderfully liberating feeling 
) for illustrating the power of scripting. I've tried it, and it works. A slower pace, being perceived as an unhurried lady, will certainly allow for time to script tough chats through in my head. 
