Reading a few threads just before going to sleep seems to have done amazing things to my thinking - the conclusion - I need to be in constant revision of dbing and other good stuff 40 years of indoctrination in non-dbing principles will obviously take a lot of effort to reverse, and I need both patience and focused efforts. Sage, I now understand your re-visiting the old threads - lots of value (and pain, I'm sure) in revision.
On detachment, I have to say I'm still feeling guilty about taking those out of town assignments next week. I know I should not, but here is a fine example of old habits being hard to shake. Guys, I'm going to depend on you to keep me on the chosen path of detachment
Quote: Reminds me of stuff I read in the book "Why Men Love Bitches! (B.I.T.C.H. Being in total control of herself!) No need to get nasty with him
Maya - I love this - I've not read the book, but being in control of myself and exercising my choices rocks with me
Quote: Hey, he may NOT be sulking. He may just be totally BEFUDDLED!! HE may even be asking himself, "What just happened here?!" LOL
Holy moly - I never thought of it that way, but it really makes more sense now. This is a MAJOR 180 for me - so he must be reeling. Well, he needs to get used to the new Slowly, the one that his betrayal was instrumental in creating - Maya, what an epiphany - thank you! NG is puzzled, and I love it
Looking forward to more loving detachment over here, Slowly
40 years of indoctrination in non-dbing principles will obviously take a lot of effort to reverse, and I need both patience and focused efforts. Sage, I now understand your re-visiting the old threads - lots of value (and pain, I'm sure) in revision. 
