Hi GBO and Ellie - You know, I never thought that NG might think of his a in those terms, I guess because during the a he was totally convinced it was the right thing for him - I know, it was a phase etc. but it did cloud my perspective. Thanks for the re-frame, it really helps me move on. I've now filed the statements and plan not to think of them again
The weekend looms - we are having old friends over for dinner, and it will be tough as NG and I both suspect the wife is having an affair - ugh. Then on Sunday our houseguests arrive, and will probably use our place as a base for 4 weeks, though they will be popping in and out. Should be interesting
Slowly 
