Slowly I would drop the credit card bill issue. H surely doesnt want to bring up painful memories. Even though I have shown my H I can handle things and prefer open communication about OW and A he will never be comfortable opening up even with things getting better. If you are feeling good about things just keep hanging on to that . It will get better and better has H gets further away from emotions of OW and closer to you. I am just now starting to really see things with my H and he definitely was in contact with OW outside the office through September for sure maybe even more than I would like to admit through October. So in the last 30 days things have changed for the better . Questioning him on the credit card bills wont do anything. Do you really need them or just want him to show them to you. If its the latter than it will only bring feelings to the forefront and thats not what you want.
