Ugh! I know this hurts, and I hate lies as much as you do. I forgot where I read it, but some book said "men either lie because he doesn't want to cause you pain or he doesn't want to get into trouble. It's up to you to make it safe for him to tell the truth."
I'll admit to having trouble with that statement. I mean, I 'get it', but I also find it just too easy. But that doesn't help you at the moment...
Sooo, I am of two minds on this one. The "DB me" would say drop it for right now. Given NG's 'turtle' qualities, saying anything will likely send him back into his shell for quite some time. And yet I know that personally I would find it very difficult not to say something about them. It is hard to reach for that duct tape. However, I would also have to say that in all the times I did 'confront' I can't recall any good outcome. Some things are better to discuss when I'm not stinging in pain or anger.
I would bet this will come up at some time in the future, and you will be able to talk about it with less pain, and more honesty about the issue for you. At least give it the 24 hour rule.
