Tonight, another piece of our healing journey fell in place. NG is slowly becoming more aware of just what baggage he still carries around from his childhood. He is not yet ready to term it as 'problems' but at least shared with me that he sees how his self esteem issues may have steered him 'wrong'. What else was there for me to do, but validate, and not jump in with conclusions he is not ready for. With every one of these conversations - which tend to happen about once a week - I am feeling more at peace, that my fear this a may have been my fault, really is unfounded. It all helps.
This is HUGE, Slowly. Your H is finally taking on his own stuff. discovering the ways in which he was going outside to receive validation than looking within. of course it is great for you to get confirmation that you are not responsible. I think, that NG, who obviously seeks external validation, needs WOA for his efforts in this area.
"NG, I just wanted to tell youthat I have thought about the convo the other night. the insights you shared with me show me how much you are thinking about your own journey. I really admire that. I am also very grateful that you have the COURAGE to share those insights with me. It really is brave."
Can you imagine saying something like this? Would it be helpful?
Great things are happening on your side of the globe.
