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Hiya Betsey - You know, looking at your simple script, it does not seem so difficult. I will give it a shot

And no, there is never any risk of being obtuse here - haven't we all had lightbulb moments at such unexpected remarks

Will keep you posted on how we go with the endearments saga...

Slowly

Hi Slowly ... still lagging a few days behind here, but I saw this and wanted to take Bets' comments a little deeper...

I get the impression, if I read you correctly as being more of an analytical mindset and personality (it takes one to know one) , that in the past over the years as you've settled in as being married, you have imprinted upon NG that you haven't put alot of emphasis on "romantic" notions. Even tho in many ways you have changed now, he doesn't quite yet know who the new you is. Some of those imprints from years past still have yet to be wiped clean.

What am I getting at, you say? Go ahead and ask for what you want, but also do it in a way that he knows its coming from a new you. Some way in which will grab his attention and shake that imprint of his like an "Etch'n'Sketch" (Toy-like drawing apparatus that looks like a old fashion red TV with two white knobs, one in each lower corner that you shake to clear what you have drawn in its screen). One suggestion I can think of is how about asking for what you want in a poem. To NG wouldn't that seem quite out of character for you? ... and Poetry carries that "romantic" connotation that will help reinforce how important it is to you. You could even title it "Terms of Endearment".

After you draft it, ask him to take a gander and ask what he thinks of it.

OK ... now back to lagging behind ...

'til later,
KAW