all that talk about X-mass lites made me cry! We bought a x-mass tree last year - the perfect one plus all the decorations. we put it up day after TG because we were going to sepnd X-mass out of state (my folks). That was the first and last year with that tree....
So, maybe you should just ask you W what is the significance of those lites for her? Because if it's to symbolize happy holidays - how can you be happy with all that crap happening? I don't know if you have any kids but if the lights are for kids then make sure you tell her that that's the ONLY reason you would consdier putting them up since her needs are no longer your concern just like yours aren't hers.
