Hmmm. Let me get this straight. MrsHairDog respectfully declines the offer of a husband who loves her and lusts after her, to make love to her. She says No thanks, sex is vile, I don't like it.
I think if I were HairDog, and offered the chance to get out and put up Christmas lights-- I might say No thanks, I don't do Christmas.
On a serious note, I know that even the cutest jokes, remarks that are sexual in nature really hit a nerve with folks who have decided that sex will NOT be part of the relationship. It's ok to have a sexual comment or joke between two people who have never had sex, or who are still having sex. But if they aren't having sex, and especially are not in agreement about that fact-- it's bad. I speak from experience, as a woman who loves a sexual innuendo or joke--except when it hits a nerve.
