Quote: What does she say in answer to this question: "If you hated sex so much, then why were you the one to initiate it first in our relationship?"
HP, I think she would say either that, as Michele says, there is a lot of female testosterone floating around at the beginning of a relationship and that the beginning of a relationship is never a forecast as to how the rest of it will go; or she would say that I started with a clean slate and then I later gave her reason to distrust me (I know, trust a stranger before you trust your H?). She also might say that she has come to learn revelations about the evils of men's sex drives, or some other such drivel.
As 2nd chances says, there is more here than just sex. Yes, she has some problems deep down that make intimacy uncomfortable for her and she is not willing to directly address them. It may take me moving out of the bedroom, or the house, or the marriage to make her do something. Or, perhaps more likely, she never will address them.
Although I am forced to deal with her attitudes and aversions now, because I love her and married her, I can choose to not deal with it for the rest of my life. I hope she comes to a different set of revelations before it comes to that.
