Hairy,
This was your best post.
Great stuff.

I especially liked the intruder part. Good luck to you, my friend. You have a great handle on things. I hope the best, also, for your wife. She is voluntarily making herself prisoner to her own (fcuked up) ideology in order to protect herself from the scariness of marital intimacy. She cannot be happy in this prison. I hope that she realizes what life has to offer, both sexually and just by letting your mate IN to your real world--minus all the smoke and mirrors and rants.

Honey

P.S. NOPette, I loved your post--it was a gem! Choc and WB, you both get A+'s in logic, my favorite college course. Karen and Lil, you gals and I will just have to sit back and scratch our heads as to why a woman would let a smart, funny, attractive man like Hairy slip through her fingers.

Stay calm, HD, and figure out what you want to do. She has talked more about sex in the last month than she has in a year! Whatever you are doing is working.

xx