I'm with Lillie - can you say "Big deflection?" Mrs. HD almost certainly has a big drive based on her comments but she is hiding it, circumventing it etc...for reasons that even she may not know. I think my H squelches his due to anxiety, fears about vulnerability etc...
Random comment: I feel as if all of us are looking for life with all the adjectives and our parnters can only cope with the noun. They want a marriage. We want a loving, juicy, sexy, fabulous marriage. They want a husband or wife or partner but they are afraid of the fullness of what each gender brings to the table. A toast to the hedonists we are!
