quote: ---------- And then she said that she has come to believe that sex has nothing to do with love. ----------
Based on what research? She is a lawyer, how about citing some cases here.
I think you need to ask her "precisely, how did you determine that love and sex are not directly related?" It's time for you to stand up to her and call her on this crap.
Is she baiting you, HD, just for a fight, or maybe to see if you will stand up to her and NOT walk off?
Why did she want to show you the ass site? Talk about mixed signals. "Let me see if the sight of naked asses turns Harry on so that I can turn him down."
Annnnk. Ok. maybe my advice to you earlier was wrong. Maybe it is time for you to kick ass and take names. Maybe you should revisit Corri's post to you.
I will tell you this - don't move out of your bedroom. Put her out if need be. She can sleep in the basement. It is time to set a few boundaries.
I think you should show up for bed every night, naked. Make sure that she sees you. In fact, I would make sure that she sees you naked as much as possible. Make sure that you ignore *her* when she is naked. Go and read Michele's advice on doing a 180. That does NOT mean being a doormat. That means being a nice brick wall. Time for you to stop dallying about looking lovelorn. Cowboy up and mount your steed. It's time to tear down a few misconceptions in your relationship.
You need to tell her in no uncertain terms "I will not stay in a sexless relationship. So, whatever it takes, you and I are going to fix our problems. I am not going to give up until our relationship is back on track, and we are not going to take two years to do it."
I also think it is a good idea for you to put some Hustler magazines in your bedroom bath. I think she needs to see sex every time she turns around. I know you have to temper what you can do because of kids.
I am serious about the above suggestions. I am also concerned that she really is believing some of the stuff you have posted previously. If she really is beginning to believe some over the top stuff like you posted tonight, then it is time for a professional, and I don't mean a marriage counselor. Only you can figure out if she is pulling your chain or not.
I would damn sure find out what she is really thinking.
Sorry for the rambling. Damn if she didn't pull my chain and I don't even now her... :-)
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
