This is what you do...go to the bank, set up a bank account and the first of the month transfer the funds you need to live on out of the old account into the new one. It's just that simple. You don't need to go through payroll and have his alltoment changed. Just open another account in your name alone, get the money you need out of the old account and then get off his butt for God's sake.
I was a military wife for 17 years. My ex husband was deployed often. While in Saudi Arabia he told me that 90% of the guys were a mess because their wives were constantly bitching and moaning at them and them thousands of miles away and with no control over what was happening.
I read your posts and it made my head spin. I can't imagine sitting in Korea and being bombarded by that stuff daily like he is. You send him poems to illicit guilt, you send him lists of what you expect from a husband and you tell him he is allowed to spend $150 a month. He isn't your child that you have to keep in line, you are not a 17 year who needs constant reassurance. He is a man who is thousands of miles away from his family and you are his wife. You've got it easy compared to what he is living right now. Stop feeling so sorry for yourself becuase this man who is so far away is not fulfilling your emotional needs.
Blow Jobs in Korea are about $2.00 a piece. Real cheap and real easy to turn to if all you ever hear from home is bitching and moaning. You might want to think about turning yourself into someone who enjoys talking to and hearing from or else get ready to deal with whatever it is he does to help with the frustration of constantly having to deal with your insecurities.
Sorry to be mean but you need to lighten up with him or you really will have problems.
