I'm so sorry that you are going through all this. If you check out the articles on this website, you will see that Michelle's ideas about making your marriage work, is that you just need to back off. Your H isn't ready to listen to you right now and even telling him how much this is hurting the kids is really making the situation worse.
I did the same thing though. I just felt like if I talked enough or showed him enough research that supported the idea of us staying together, something I said or did would get through to him. It doesn't work though.
Check out Michelle's book, "Divorce Busting" and "The Divorce Rememdy." If you can't get the books right away, check out the info on the website in the article section.
