I hit the reply button and then saw the "olive branch extended with your panties hanging off" remark and forgot what I was going to say. (It's a blood flow issue.)

Oh, yeah! Why not ask him why he's all over you on vacation but not at home? If it's something about you, then you can change it. (It won't be!) But if he says it's because of stress, work, schedule, etc, then you'll be able to ask him which way he likes it best (he'll pick vacation) and how you can make RL more of a vacation atmosphere for you both.

Perhaps the idea of making home a "vacation spot" could change his attitude. And perhaps he'll come to think of your squishy parts as his "vacation spot" instead of the beach or mountains.

Good luck!