My BF did say at the C one day, "Well, Lil did initiate a lot, so why did she have to stop? It worked, didn't it?" and at the last session, the C said to him, "In the beginning of your R, Lil was 'all over you.' Would you like to invite her to be all over you again and see what happens?" He said, "Yes, absolutely!" But I haven't done it, because, frankly, I'm not feeling sexy at all these days. If I did it, it would be because I've looked at the calendar and realized it's been x number of weeks and "it's time." But I'm tired of doing it for that reason. Right now, I'm waiting for Real Desire from one of us. He bought a new bed the other day (the old one was one of Billy Bob's Better Beds-- NOT!). I wonder how long before that new mattress sees some Action? I'm not giving him the cold shoulder or anything. We spoon naked every day and night, kiss, I show my Amplies, but right now I just don't feel like initiating! So sue me!