Karen, you are definitely One of Us-- again, welcome aboard this leaky boat!
You wrote
Quote: it is almost funny sometimes to be sitting there wanting your spouse, studying his body language, horny as hell and yet not being sure whether to touch him or not - YOUR SPOUSE. It just feels crazy to me.
This is CRAZY. I figured this out one day. It was a huge insight. My bf's world is CRAZY where sex is concerned. That's one reason why I posted the Happy Sex thread. That world is not crazy. That world has a natural, easy give an take in the sex zone. People who have read the thread (not just skimmed) will see that those people had sex more often than we do, but they also went through dry spells due to kids, issues, being pissed off, etc. The difference is that they eventually, and naturally, got back together. That is not the crazy world.
THIS world, where you sit desiring your spouse/partner and hesitate to approach because you don't feel welcome when you want to share the pleasure of your body-- that SHOULD make you feel crazy, because it IS crazy! Please don't lets any of us start to think it's acceptable to be scared to hug, or stroke, or kiss our spouse/partner... or to ask for sex.
If something snaps in your head one day, and you truly decide it is okay, that's one thing... but lets not be like the froggie in the pot who doesn't notice the heat is being turned up until right before he cooks. Although in our case(s) we're more likely to freeze to death than cook!
